I’m a small-town boy with international experience.
Smart, silly, witty, irreverent, spiritual, gay, happy, curious, satisfied, creative, organized and unpredictable.
I grew up in Twin Bridges, Montana. It was a great place to grow up- because it taught me the value of reading, hard work and dreaming of far-off places. I went to Japan as an exchange student at 15 which started my love of everything Japanese and began my fascination with multiculturalism. I attended Carroll College in Helena, Montana studying Theology, Communications, Philosophy and Psychology (I was driven). I then was sent to The North American college in Rome, a seminary, to become a priest. This I did. I was in Rome for 5 years and got my first Master’s in Foundational Theology. I then spent the next 7 years in Helena, MT at the Cathedral, teaching at Carroll College and finally, for a little less than a year, having my own parish in the Helena Valley.
I left active ministry in 1997 and moved to Seattle. I went to bartending school on a whim- because I liked people, but then realized I hated drunks. I then landed a job in a credit union (medical and dental seemed important). To process my life more helpfully, I went through 2 years of often weekly therapy with a fantastic man who really helped me create my life anew, and the idea of being a therapist came from that work we did together. I concurrently went to grad school at Seattle U (the bill will still be due well after I’m dead) and attended the Gestalt Institute of Seattle to become a certified Gestalt therapist. I actually began working as a mental health therapist at Seattle Counseling Service for Sexual Minorities as an intern and stayed on for four more years. Probably the best company job I’ve ever had in my life.
I have had several failed relationships, many successful ones, and have always had a wonderful core of family and friends to support me. My understanding of the universe has evolved from dogmatic to spiritual, from controlling to non-resistance….
As a result of illness and circumstance, I move back and forth between Seattle and Montana. In Montana, I stayed in Butte, taking care of my dear friend Fr OSullivan. I needed a place to be and he needed the help- 85 years old, congestive heart failure and fibrosis of the lungs and the closest thing to a Grandfather I have. He died April 24th, 2010, and I am now working at taking care of the estate (there’s a lot to do). I facilitate two HIV+ support groups, tell my story before schools and groups, do trainings and presentations (see Speaking Gigs), am active with the MT Gay Men’s Task force and am a member of the State of Montana Community Planning Group for the Prevention of HIV. I love to write, and so I do most of that here on this blog, sometimes submitting stories to the Bilerico Project (linked on my blogroll). In Seattle, I officially live in Wedgwood, but spend most of my time on Capitol Hill, both at work and at play- oh and at medical appointments….
I have found the partner of my heart (how we met is a great story, ask me to tell you sometime), I do work that’s satisfying and useful. I am happy, pragmatic, curious, satisfied and looking forward to whatever happens next….