Jesus talks about marriage today, but he’s really talking about how we try to wrangle the scriptures to make it fit our own needs, viewpoints and prejudices.
Do we really care who’s wife that woman is? It’s just a way for the Sadducees way to wrangle.
The Sadducees weren’t curious, they were cruelly trying to trap him with the law- although it wasn’t really the law, it was a cruel twisting of the law. They didn’t even believe in the resurrection of the dead. They were mocking him. They denied the resurrection of the dead, the existence of spirits, and the obligation of oral tradition, promoting the written Law alone. They were Fundamentalists. Torah only. And they didn’t last.
This question was designed to make Jesus seem stupid.
It was self-serving- and cruel.
And what did Jesus do? He made the question irrelevant.
He said that the answer to that question is none of our business. It is God’s business- and you’re stepping in it.
As a reminder, Christians aren’t called to hate. We Christians are called to love.
Hate is a strong word and I really do not like to use it in my personal vocabulary- unless it’s about food.
Particularly barbecue sauce, melon and bad pizza….
Hate is one of those words that is inexorably linked to the complete and utter dissolution of relationships.
Hate says “something or someone should not exist”.
And I would add even despite the factual evidence of reality- that’s what we in psychology call delusion.
Hate isn’t something every Christian should aspire to.
But I find an exception here. So just stay with me for a minute. If you were listening to my sermon two weeks ago I said that Christians are only allowed to hate one thing : Cruelty. Some have asked me to elaborate. Here goes.
I hate cruelty.
I think Jesus hates cruelty.
I think cruelty exist in so many forms around us, and we may not really understand or acknowledge what that is.
For the Sadducees today, cruelty is trying to trick someone into proving their own biased opinion.
Cruelty is not allowing a human being the dignity of their humanity.
Cruelty is fighting to get my way in order to get inconvenient people out of my way. In other words, using power to hurt, harm, stifle and even kill.
Cruelty is refusing to feed the hungry.
Cruelty is refusing to help those without homes, medical care, stability, childcare….even though we have the means and resources to do so.
Cruelty is keeping wages so low that people can’t afford the necessities of their family- even after working 60-80 hours a week.
Cruelty is about diminishing people and populations that we don’t like or agree with.
Cruelty is about reporting people to immigration for no loving reason. Just to have power over a person with less power to make themselves feel good.
Cruelty is about debating another human being’s right to exist- who we believe are created in the image and likeness of God.
But there are less obvious signs of cruelty that we’ve normalized:
Cruelty is making fun of someone.
Cruelty is allowing other people to do so.
What else?
Cutting in line?
Flipping the bird in traffic?
Pursuing vengeful behavior to hurt someone the way they hurt you?
Cursing someone?
Wishing bad things on someone?
Lying?
Cheating?
Disobeying the rules to feel better about ourselves- not because the rules are unjust?
I want to be clear that I’m not trying to shame anyone, I just want to expand our consciousness a bit.
And like everyone else, I’ve done things that are not in line with my ideal moral framework. Within the moral framework of Jesus.
And he knew that.
As Christians, we struggle to be better every day.
That’s why forgiveness is a key component of the Kingdom of God, Jesus talked about it all the time.
We say we’re sorry, and hopefully mean it, and try to amend our lives. We do it here every Sunday. And I don’t know about you, but I need to do it with my loved ones, my family, my community as often as possible. How many times have you said “I’m sorry” in the last few days? If your Canadian, it might be in the hundreds… But seriously.
No matter what we’ve done, if we sincerely repent; we’re trying to follow Jesus.
And God forgives us.
Every single time.
We live in a cruel time.
We live in a time where Christian people feel that hurting other people is OK- and even brag about it. It’s misguided and makes me sick to my stomach.
It is not OK. And it is in fact antichrist. We are to take care of those who are marginalized, without homes, without food, without families, without people to care for them, and there is really no exception to that if you believe in the good news of Jesus, the Christ.
I am angry that our country is moving toward a place of indifference. I’m angry that people are moving to a place of indifference. I am angry that people with less have to fill in the service gaps formerly filled by all of us. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy to give, but I give my taxes to help those who need help- and I still can’t help but think of all the people with way more resources than I have- the people who could give and don’t- they just have disgusting parties, buy yachts they use once a year, build rockets and have millions of dollars weddings instead.
There is a certain amount of selfishness that is gripping this country- and the world. And all I can do is say what Jesus said, which is basically “This world is not the Kingdom of God, and the shortsightedness of cruel people will always be there but you can’t take it with you. Their power will disappear“- and yet they cling to the cross around their necks to excuse them.
So what are we doing today? What are we doing to help those people who are less fortunate less healthy, less able, and less attractive and less palatable than we are?
That’s the test.
A tenet of AA that I greatly admire is “to help the still suffering alcoholic”.
We are to help those suffering if we can.
And believe me, everyone in this room is suffering in some way.
Mother Theresa once said that every suffering human being is just Jesus in a distressing disguise.
We need to find Jesus in those distressing disguises.
The writer Anne Lamott once spoke to writers about people who complained to her about her depiction of them in her life- “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”
When people tell their stories, what character will we play? Should we have behaved better?
So our question today is… maybe two questions, maybe three.
The only real questions for a Christian: Am I trying to be better?Am I trying to show God and Jesus to the world by my behavior, beliefs, and thoughts? Do I really believe in trust in the mercy and forgiveness of God?
And the only answer is “I will try with God’s help”.
