Two Spirits


My friend Gregory Hinton’s remarks at the West Hollywood One City One Pride screening of the film Two Spirits presented by his creation, OUT WEST. Thought-provoking and amazing enough to share them with you here. Please pass them along to others. This is a remarkable film about a beautiful part of our heritage, often overlooked in modern culture.
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LGBT STORIES OF THE AMERICAN WEST

Two Spirits

Remarks by Gregory Hinton

Creator and Producer of Out West

West Hollywood One City One Pride

June 28, 2010

West Hollywood, California

Thank you, Councilmember Horvath for your generous introduction. Welcome all!  Before we screen the film, with the permission of our filmmakers, I’d like to tell you a bit about Out West.

Out West is an educational program series dedicated to shine a light on the contributions of our community to the history and culture of the American West.  I have been privileged to develop Out West with my founding partner, the Autry National Center. http://theautry.org/series/out-west

Tonight, Out West has a new friend – the City of West Hollywood. I am so grateful to the City Council, the Arts and Cultural Affairs Commission and its wonderful staff, the Lesbian and Gay Advisory Board, and the Transgender Advisory Board for including Two Spirits in their 25th One City One Pride program series.   I hope it is the first of many Out West collaborations.  www.weho.org/pride

In one short year, we’ve presented two very successful Out West programs at the Autry, with two more planned for the fall and winter. On July 24th, the Autry is celebrating the National Day of the Cowboy and Cowgirl. Their website has the details. Representing the Autry here are my friends Joan Cumming, Senior Director of Marketing and Marlene Head, editor of the Autry’s Convergence Magazine.

Tom Gregory, HBO, Tim Gill, and James Hormel were our first responders.  Our friends at GLAAD and HRC have supported us from day one.

Seated in this theater tonight, are western scholars, authors, musicians, artists, and filmmakers all working on books, songs, paintings, and films to further Out West’s objective of dispelling the notion that there is no place for our community in the American West.  You’ll be hearing more about them very soon.

I myself was born on the Fort Peck Indian Reservation, in the remote northeastern corner of Montana.  My wonderful brother Scott was also gay.  We skipped rocks on the Missouri River, near the same banks where Lewis and Clark made camp with Sacagawea.

We later moved south to Cody, Wyoming, founded by Buffalo Bill.  We routinely attended rodeos and powwows. Yellowstone Park was our backyard.  It was a wonderful, magical childhood. It was a time when children wandered, and mothers expected their safe return.

It is for this reason that I am devoted to the mission of Out West. Times have changed since my brother and I were boys.  Born in rural communities, many of us feel forced to leave our families behind to move to the city in search of identity, companionship, and safety.

That said, happily, not everybody leaves. And some of us return. And some of us, city born, visit the American West, like what we see and move there. I encourage everyone sitting in this theater tonight to take your families on a car trip through the American West.  It will change your perspective. It has changed my life.

The American West – its art, its history and vast natural resources – belongs to everyone.  Its stewardship cannot – must not – be left in the hands of those who would restrict our community’s right to the pursuit of happiness openly and without fear.

The rights and freedoms afforded us by the vision, vigilance, and hard work of the leaders of West Hollywood are far from the realities of our sister communities in the rural West.  Missoula recently became the first Montana city to adopt anti-discrimination laws to protect our community.  Opposing forces – including the father of a young Lesbian who pushed it through – have now filed suit to overturn it.

It is my hope that national organizations will step up efforts to support our country family, which often feels marginalized because its numbers are few.  And perhaps through Out West, urban communities such as West Hollywood might become “sister cities” with their rural western counterparts: Laramie, Bozeman, and Boise.

The city and the country have a lot to catch up on.  We have much to teach each other. To protect our rural kids, and our rural elders, our community must be visible, like a porch light streaming into the western night sky.

And now, to Lydia and Russell, the filmmakers of Two Spirits, thank you for your advocacy by flipping on the switch.

Two Spirits is the story of Fred Martinez, a Navajo boy who was also a girl. It is also the story of Pauline Mitchell, the mother who loved him, who prayed every night for his safe return.

It speaks to the prescience of the Navajo culture.  Imagine a time where Two Spirit children were adored, their talents cultivated, their spirits revered.

The World Premiere of Two Spirits was sponsored by the Matthew Shepard Foundation in Denver.  I recently told Judy Shepard that in addition to experiencing bias as a gay man, I have also experienced bias as a rural westerner. I asked her if Matt loved Wyoming. Judy told me he stayed in Laramie because it was home and he loved the out of doors.

The love of mothers and courage of sons astonishes.

Stay home if you want. Be who you are. This is the mission of Out West.

And now, Two Spirits.

Following the fifty minute screening, producer Russell Martin will speak to us and introduce Lydia Nibley, the director. After remarks from Lydia, our honored guest Dr. Wesley Thomas, Dean of Humanities, and renowned Native American Two Spirit authority from Arizona’s Dine College will be introduced, with a Q & A and reception to follow.

The West belongs to everyone.  It’s our history, too.   Thank you, West Hollywood!

www.twospirits.org

Freedom Day in the USA

Happy Fourth of July, folks!

The promise of freedom still beckons in this country, despite the fact that many of us are not as free as others. People are still doing things they don’t want to do because they have no money. People are still being exploited because they have no power. People are being unnecessarily discriminated against because they do not have equal access to a quality education. Race and gender are often obstacles to overcome rather than diversity to be embraced. Persons are still persecuted openly because of their religion. People are still being attacked, beaten and killed because of prejudice. People can lose their jobs because of whom they love, not to mention that marriage for a significant part of the population is mostly out of the question. There’s work to be done, and blessings to be remembered. Many of us can remember the crowded and dark closet of our pasts with co-existing nostalgia and horror. Nostalgia that we survived, horror at what we actually endured. And a sigh of relief that it’s mostly no longer necessary.

I believe that taking my freedom and dignity and doing what I can to create more, for myself and others is the only way to go. This happens in my own awareness and understanding of the beauty and possibility of the world around me- and inside me. Freedom is another word for shamelessly and happily being totally myself- and allowing and encouraging others to do the same. This quote has inspired me to do just that:

“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.”
~ Albert Camus, 1913-1960, Nobel Prize for Literature, 1957

Freedom begins in our hearts and minds. Take your blessings and make freedom a reality for everyone- that’s the American way.

Despite what anyone else thinks.

Proud

I hold my head up, barely-
with parades in it, it’s heavy.
I look at the world and know
that they’re all looking at me.
They are.
I’m important.
I have to be or there wouldn’t
be such a beautiful fucking parade,
Right?

At least today they’re looking.
They can’t really ignore the music
and the sweat, and the skin and the feathers.

Some bring their kids,
I automatically make way for strollers.
I notice lots of dogs, some very fancy.
I get tangled, briefly, in a sparkly leash
when a bulldog in a tutu
takes a turn for  a terrier.

There are beautiful, beautiful people.
Beauty, I know, a distraction from pain.
Smile, it’s your day!
They smile, on cue-
they really want to mean it.
There are old people- at least fortysomething.
It’s funny, they smile anyway.

Some stand back,
not really there, but they have to be.

And some, I know, are quietly holding
a heavy excuse to beat me with
(they practice on themselves, like I did).
But not today,
They’re outnumbered.

Is blue the sky, or the other way round?
Today, it doesn’t matter.
My eyes are clear
my back is straight,
my neck getting stronger
with every passing feathery float.

~ D Gregory Smith

Montana Republicans: Officially Homophobes And Bigots?

~Also published on Bilerico.com

In their newly unveiled 2010 Platform, the Montana GOP has included a plank (under “Crime”) which states:

We support the clear will of the people of Montana expressed by legislation to keep homosexual acts illegal.

So now all Montana Republicans are officially homophobes and bigots. Some helpful definitions:

  • Homophobia: an extreme and irrational aversion to homosexuality and homosexual persons.
  • Bigoted: expressing or characterized by prejudice and intolerance.

Really? Is this the will of the many reasonable Republicans in this state? Is this the will of Republicans who are gay (and, according to this platform plank, filled with self-loathing and irrational self-prejudice), of Republicans with LGBT family members and friends (who, according to this plank, really loathe and detest us and are really only being nice to us so they can take away our peaceful right to co-exist?), of Republicans who actually know better? Or is this the will of a cabal of unenlightened leaders who are looking to de-humanize a segment of the population?

I suspect the latter. I know many reasonable Montana Republicans- hell, I’m related to quite a few. I know that this is not their “clear will”. I know it’s not the will of my parents, my extended family, my friends and colleagues. Where did this come from? What is this “clear will” they’re talking about? Whatever it is, it’s wrong.

Oh, and by the way, the language “Keep homosexual acts illegal” is superfluous and irrelevant. The Montana Supreme Court decriminalized homosexual acts in 1997. There’s nothing to keep. Not to mention that it flies in the face of all scientific information….

So, if you’re a Republican, in Montana or elsewhere, let the leadership know that this is not okay. Even if you’re not a Republican, I think it’s important to raise your voice against this bigotry. This is not the Montana I know and love.

Do it here:

Montana Republican Party
PO Box 935
Helena, MT 59624
(406) 442-6469

Dennis Rehberg is the Montana party’s top elected official, email him: Dennis.Rehberg@mail.house.gov

Or, write on their Facebook Wall– suggested post: “take the ignorance and hate out of your platform!”

If anyone has an email address that would be appropriate for expressing our collective displeasure, please send it along….

Update: Why Montana Matters

Dead Air

Sorry for the lack of posts- I decided to take a few days away from computer, phone and my house. I was in Seattle for a week- last Wednesday to Tuesday. Ken joined me Friday. I didn’t check my email, facebook or, in fact, go online at all for 5 days. I worked on a poem, visited friends,  had a wonderful dinner out with my “family”, attended some Seattle Pride events, a great house barbecue where I made a wonderful new friend (HI MaryEllen!). In short, I just relaxed.

And I feel good.

If you’ve never taken an internet vacation, I’d highly recommend it. I’m deeply grateful that so many of you want to read what I write. I’m just glad I don’t feel bound or hindered by it. This site was created to be a fun, educational, insightful and helpful forum- with a healthy dose of perspective- from author and readers- thrown in. And so it is, still. Just another reason to not give in to the constant need for drama which can be addictive and anxiety-provoking.

The world will not go away. We, however, can for a time.

Why Celebrate Gay Pride?

An excellent line of reasoning from Joe Jervis at Joe.My.God:

They wish we were invisible.

We’re not.

Let’s dance.

~Amen.


Facebook Plea

Also published at Bilerico.com

National HIV awareness organization Who’s Positive is launching a ten-day effort to promote HIV testing by taking a Facebook group viral.

“Just like a successful attempt to bring Betty White to Saturday Night Live, Who’s Positive encourages people from all over the World to join a Facebook group called “ANDERSON COOPER or Dr. SANJAY GUPTA – PERFORM LIVE HIV TEST ON AIR on 6/27,” said Tom Donohue, Founding Director of Who’s Positive.

“Yesterday was not soon enough, tomorrow is too late to bring much needed attention to this epidemic” says Donohue. “We need to respond to the HIV epidemic with the same urgency as our nation has to the H1N1 virus. I’m hopeful that this Facebook group will become viral and Anderson and Sanjay will step up to dedicating a small part of their nearly daily appearance on CNN to getting tested and showing how painless and simple being tested can be.”

Painless and simple, right?

Not really.

Who’s Positive is a great organization – I subscribe to their email newsletter, have been inspired by the stories of members, and used their resources for my clients and HIV+ support groups. But I wonder if the message is just getting lost with all the other distractions of Pride Month.

Like many others in HIV prevention work, I see the uphill battle every day. I see the LGBT kids who have little or no self-esteem, the married men who are secretly having unsafe sex on the side, the middle-aged out-and-proud gay men who are tired of condoms, and the HIV positive people who are worn out from rejection, hypervigilance, economic worries and fear of the future. I see them all. I’ve staffed the HIV booths at Pride festivals, I’ve handed out condoms in parades. I’ve watched the glazing over of eyes when talking about HIV to high-risk groups. I’ve worked my ass off. Often it makes me physically and emotionally very tired- and sometimes very cynical about the ubiquitous pairing of HIV and Pride.

Let’s face it, denial in the form of colorful parades, drunken revelry and hot bodies is much more attractive than the reality of an HIV wake-up call.

Don’t kill the buzz, dude.

But I take a breath, reinforce my belief in the fundamental goodness of humanity and soldier on – like thousands of others.

Like Tom Donohue.

It’s people like him who can take that cynicism and turn it around. ” A facebook group, well why not?” Maybe people can click a link in between sewing sequins on their g-strings and waxing. In fact, maybe we could make it sexy. “Join this group while naked!

However it works, it can only help. But only if people join.

Personally, I did it while wearing my sequined g-string.

The Unhappy Monk

The young monk was troubled.

He knew that he was meant to be a monk from a very young age, and yet, life at the monastery was not satisfying anymore. He noticed his own anger at silly things. His impatience with himself and others, his petulance, his fear, his sadness- all seemed so overwhelming. He had trouble remembering why he was here. He resolved to see the Abbot.

The Abbott had been a monk for over sixty years, and had a reputation for great kindness and great wisdom. He saw the troubled monk at once, listening with patience as the brother poured out his heart.

“And so, I fear , Father Abbot, that I am not a very good monk,” the troubled brother concluded. “What should I do?”

The Abbot took a slow, deep breath. “Is there any one here, one of our brothers, that you find it very difficult to love?” he asked.

The brother, slightly stunned by the question, thought for a moment. He thought of Brother Lee. Ever since he had been at the monastery, Brother Lee had galled him. He didn’t know whether it was real or imagined, but he always thought Brother Lee was mocking, uncouth and patronizing. And he smelled funny.

“Yes, Father Abbot, there is one such brother.”

“Then, my son, you are assigned to be his servant. You are to share work and meals and prayers next to him for the next ten days- but he is not to know that this is an assignment from me. You and I are the only ones who will know. Then in ten days, return and we will talk.” The Abbot then left the room.

The young brother walked away, noticing some anger in his heart, and realizing that he was shaking. Was it anger? Was it fear? Was it excitement? “I don’t know, ” he thought. “I can’t just leave,” although part of him wanted to. “I can’t just ignore the Abbot’s order,” although, again, part of him wanted to. “I really want to be a good monk, but I’m not sure how I can do this.”

As he rounded the corner, there was Brother Lee, struggling, carrying two large pails full of water. Immediately, he said “Brother, let me help you!” The older monk looked surprised, but the pails were heavy and he allowed the young brother to take a pail. “We’re going to the herb garden,” Brother Lee said. “Some of the more tender herbs need a little extra water this morning.” The younger monk followed, carefully carrying his pail of water to the herb garden. “That’s fine,” Brother Lee said. “Just set it there. I can handle this now.” Setting down the pail, the young monk looked around. He wasn’t allowed in the herb garden normally, that was the province of Brother Lee, but since the Abbot’s order….

It was beautiful. The herbs were in neat rows and obviously carefully tended. Little signs carved in wood named each row of growing thing for the uninitiated, and some of the larger plants and shrubs as well. It was very quiet and peaceful. And the smell! The lemongrass, the feverfew, the basil, echinacea, chives, thyme, rosemary all made life inside the monastery seem suddenly very rich.

“I said thank you.” It was Brother Lee’s voice. “You can go now.”

“Oh, sorry, certainly. It’s just…Can I ask you something?”

“Of course. Can’t guarantee an answer,” Brother Lee said. His face and voice seemed to squint a bit.

“Well, I’ve always wanted to see the garden and now that I’m here, it seems a shame to leave so quickly. I have no other chores this morning, may I help you with the garden?”

Brother Lee looked at him more intently. Then suddenly, he straightened up and said, “Well, could use a bit of help. My back isn’t what it used to be. Why don’t you start by bringing a couple more pails of water from the stream. then I’ll show you how to tend the rows.”

The young monk emptied the pails into a large tub by the potting bench and ran to the stream, carrying the two pails back easily.

“Where should I put these, brother?”

“Bring one of the pails over here, and take that ladle off the potting bench and bring it with you.”

The young monk did as he was told and Brother Lee showed him how simply dumping water on some of the plants would create damage to the plant and erosion to the soil. Especially with the younger, more sensitive plants, a gentle hand was needed. “We gently use the ladle, just until their roots grow strong, you know,” Brother Lee said. The afternoon passed quickly, and before he knew it, the young monk heard the bell for prayer. “You seem to have a knack for this, young brother. I will ask Father Abbot if you could assist me in the garden- my last helper found me disagreeable and is now cleaning out the stables. Hmph. Well, would that please you?”

“Yes it would!” The afternoon had flown. The work was interesting, and so was Brother Lee. Over the next week, he learned that Brother Lee had been a soldier before entering the monastery. He had seen lots of human tragedy. “I didn’t want to see any more murder and revenge. I wanted a place of quiet and peace. A place to cultivate compassion and patience- I’m still learning,” he said with a sly grin. “But I hope my contribution will balance my prior violent actions.” Brother Lee was fascinating- he had a lot of stories, and he knew so many teachings. The young brother found himself excited to see him in the mornings and learn from him in the garden each day. He loved the garden, and the plants, and he loved Brother Lee. Like a real brother. He didn’t even notice that there was anything strange about the way he smelled, because he smelled of it, too. Compost. Food for the life of the garden. He now loved that smell.

One day, the Abbot’s messenger arrived to summon the young monk from the garden. “The Abbot wishes to speak with you,” he said. Had it really been ten days already? The young monk shook his robe, washed his hands, and followed the messenger to the Abbot’s room.

“My brother,” the Abbot said, “It is now ten days since you came to me with your troubling problem. How are things going since we last spoke?”

“Oh, Father Abbot, it’s wonderful! Brother Lee and I are getting the gardens ready for the late spring plantings, and it feels so good to see the earth and the flowers and growing things every day and hear Brother Lee’s stories and listen to his wisdom. He’s really been through a lot, and it’s amazing that he could be such a good monk after being part of so much violence and pain. I’m learning a lot, and I really feel as if I belong here now.”

“But I thought you didn’t like Brother Lee. At least the assignment was to work with one you had difficulty with.” Were his eyes smiling?

The young monk paused. “That’s true, but I was wrong. I couldn’t have disliked Brother Lee, I didn’t know him.”

“Ah,” said the Abbot. His eyes were twinkling! “I see. So, now that you are actually following the Master, let’s see what we can do about making you a good and happy monk.”

~D Gregory Smith

Montana Men’s Sexual Health Survey

If you’re a gay/bi man living in Montana,
please take this survey
It helps us to plan and fund programs for our health in the state (there are iPods as incentives!). And please pass this link on to friends who may not otherwise find it….

Thanks!

Friend

Who do you find me to be?
Or, maybe I already understand the answer
without the questioning eyes you try
to love me with (bad sentence, are you judging?).

Where do I go for the truth?
Or, maybe you have found that place I know
to hide in when the Nazis threaten to take
my family,or, -did I do that again? Do you care?

What I know is this:
Your, mine- and maybe we can say our-
Vision catches the sparkle at exactly the
Same time and it’s done exactly right, right?

It happens regardless of grammar and syntax.
It just does. And maybe we can’t help
but grab at water and look for air
Despite knowing, but still wanting

To hold, to touch, to see, to taste
Not only with my senses but yours.
Because it’s fun and scary and senseless, maybe,
And that’s the only thing that works. Right?

~D Gregory Smith