So Many Thoughts

…in the aftermath of grief (does it ever really end?). I often find myself looking blankly for indeterminate lengths of time, thinking about things that are no longer relevant- just for the pleasure of the memory, and trying very hard to not be a drag… but honestly, I feel pretty okay. Just more sad than usual. And that’s temporary, too.

For sharing:

Wisdom is knowing I am nothing,

Love is knowing I am everything,

And in between the two

my life moves.

~Nisargadatta Maharaj

Easter Revenge

Also published on The Bilerico Project.

I’ve been reading Michael McCullough’s book Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of The Forgiveness Instinct.

It’s fascinating. Part of his analysis involves human instinct, sociological observation and psychological study. What conditions lead generally to forgiveness rather than revenge? Is the (sometimes) ubiquitous theme of revenge in our popular culture (literature, film, games) really an unbreakable cycle? In the long view, he maintains, violence worldwide is significantly down. Murder in Europe is 1/3-1/4 of what it was in the 16th century. It challenged me to think, and also helped create an understanding of the current (global) human condition. It’s a good  book, and I recommend it.

Still, I can’t help reflecting on the American Christianist emphasis on defense, fighting, and the pursuit of our country’s honor by acts of revenge. It’s everywhere- Rambo has become us. But, it just doesn’t play out well if you pay attention carefully to the Gospels and early Christian tradition.

“Turn the other cheek”, and “He who is without sin, cast the first stone” seem to be conveniently forgotten and “an eye for an eye” (words never spoken by Jesus or his followers in the Gospels) adopted as a Christian rallying cry. In fact, these words were a Jewish attempt at early defense and protection of their new and still-fragile culture. Most experts agree that it was not meant to be taken (literally) out of the desert into global perpetuity, but it was an early attempt to codify a type of justice- which, in itself, was God’s province. They also note  that it directly contradicts the words and spirit of Jesus. And yet, Christianists use them to justify revenge and pervert justice.

So. For those Christianists who use an “eye for an eye” as a mandate from God, one question:

What would have happened if the Apostles and disciples had stormed Pilate’s palace in anger, swords and shields clashing with guards and innocents alike to avenge their murdered leader?

You’re right. Nothing. The whole message of Jesus would have been perverted, contradicted and probably would have died out shortly thereafter. After all, credibility is everything. Jesus didn’t fight, and except for an awkward attempt by Peter to defend him, neither did the Apostles. Jesus turned the other cheek, tolerating great physical and verbal abuse, valiantly and triumphantly loving in the face of tremendous pain.

That’s why we still remember him- despite the perversions of his message by some followers, despite horrible and terrible things done in his name, we can still remember the love and dignity of this man- if we try.

That’s a role model I want. That’s what I celebrate this week.

Happy Easter, friends.

Young Men’s Retreat

I’m off in a bit to Lubrecht Forest to be a Den Mother for the Montana Young Men’s Health Retreat.

I look forward to it every year, because these kids (is that demeaning?) guys have so much to offer and always, at some point, make me glad to have lived to see well-adjusted kids grow up in the state of Montana- because, as many of you know, my generation had very few.

So, peace. Back Sunday night.

Apologies to Buddha…

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“The only thing constant is change- and the human hatred of it”
~D Gregory Smith