People often ask me how I listen to other people all day long and not go crazy. First of all, I don’t really ever look at what I do as “listening to people’s problems”. Yesterday, I was asked for some words to describe what I do, and my philosophy for doing it, and I came up with this:
Other people’s problems are exactly that.
Making them your own is not only arrogant- it’s unhealthy, exhausting and robs people of the creative pain that makes a life rich.
Being with them as they go through it is a privilege, but it is not always a call to action.
Presence is worth more than all the advice in the world.
Works for me…
And it worked for me. Thank you for being present with me when I needed it.
I agree wholeheartedly and if anyone in a human services field cannot do this for themselves, they will not be able to help anyone else. Detachment is healthy, not cold. Self-care is essential, not selfish.